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Week In Review: Mailroom Boy’s a Homophobe, Work Interrupts My Personal Time and More Soul Searching

Explain why men have such an issue with homosexuals? Wait let me rephrase why to do men have such an issue with homosexual men. (Men sign up in droves to see two women do the do but two men has them yelling obscenities and performing all kinds of out of character behavior.) Think about it the most devastating blow to a man’s ego, besides his woman making more money, call him a fagg*t. (Not that I condone the use of such terms)

If for some reason you do take the name calling route I would suggest some distance between you and the man you plan on emasculating, you know just a helpful hint.

Not that I am some rainbow toting picket line rioter for all things GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) because I am not but at the same time I am also not threatened by homosexuality. I don’t think it will ruin the world since it hasn’t so far and I don’t know that anyone who is will burn in fiery pits of hell for all eternity any more than the rest of us heathens. I simply do not. I also don’t like when others try to push their warped interpretations of homosexuality on me and expect me to keep my mouth shut and accept what they spew as fact.

This is exactly what’s wrong with the world people don’t know their roles. If you’re a man you like woman and vice versa bottom line. Everyone who is like that should be singled out…..(I stopped listening at that point as I felt my blood boiling to higher levels of pissed-off-ness)

That would be Mailroom Boy speaking not me. He went into a mild questioning rant about what he was supposed to say to his daughter when she saw two men kissing. My rebuttal was simple; I don’t see a difference in the explanation from seeing a man and a woman kiss. His negative reaction to the situation will only reinforce in his impressionable daughter’s mind that there is in fact something wrong with people “like that,” for lack of a better words. This line of parenting creates little bigots and thus the cycle continues.

I asked him very simply, why it bothers him so much (Granted he is vain and expects that everyone wants him…please you’re not that cute that every gay man wants you because quite frankly you’re not. I mean it’s not like he’s Michael Ealy or Lance Gross) and his response was that it’s unnatural. And anything that’s unnatural shouldn’t happen. WTF? Unnatural you say…well so is having a tattoo, hair dye, in vitro fertilization and pretty much any medication combination to fight most major diseases. Clearly Mailroom Boy wants to take us back to the invention of the stone wheel. He told me I was taking it too far.

His closed mindedness is very unattractive.

But anywho this week was my first back following my staycation. Bottom line here things haven’t changed and I put in 12 hr days from Tuesday – Friday. Not to mention that I woke up early Saturday morning to two conference calls. WTF! When did I subscribe to this total invasion of my social and personal life? Friends don’t seem to get the hint that I’m busy until I ignore all calls and text messages. Believe me if I sense any attitude once I listen to the messages after I free up, don’t expect a return call, bottom line the attitude isn’t needed after a 12 hr work day period. This would include the Spaniard who sends things like I guess you’re busy or did you forget about me today. PISS OFF!

And still I remain very torn about my male relationships these days. Sam Keen said that love isn’t about finding the perfect person it’s about seeing an imperfect person perfectly. I guess I can’t help what I like. Nurse Friend and I were talking the other day and I told her that I feel as though I’ve dated the same man in a different body my entire life. In a quest to find someone who’s a polar opposite of the Man Wander Married I’ve gone haywire. I don’t know just something I’ve been thinking about between conference calls.

With half the summer nearly gone Mailroom Boy and The Spaniard are neck and neck…3 to 3 at the start of the 6th inning…maybe some relief pitchers might be in order.

Small Update: I never had to take the business trip to NYC so I was safe from making a final decision yet again.

6 Pardon My French:

ReformingGeek said...

I'm with you. I don't like it when people get mad because I disagree with their opinion or ask them to explain their opinion.

Hubby just said he is NOT turned on by two unattractive women kissing.....

I like your comment about dating the same man in a different body.

La'Tonya Richardson said...

Believe me, when you have kids, and you're faced with having to explain homosexuality before you're ready, it's a difficult task! The information they get from the playground, soooo is not what you want them to remember. And yep, you worry about that kind of stuff looooong before it's time!

Hmmm, finding the same man if different bodies... You said it, you like what like.

mr. nichols said...

Like ReformingGeek, I also really zeroed in on that comment about dating the same dude in a different body. Looking back I feel similar with the women that I've dated, or even been the most attracted to. I think it's just one of those things where our souls tell us what best complements us, so then it's just of matter of finding that right complement that can help us grow.

But anyway. I don't have kids and I can't really imagine what it would be like to explain it. But at the rate the media is going, it will probably not be anything that needs to be explained. I liked your comeback to his unnatural point. I think the goal would be for all of us to practice tolerance, even if it goes against our own personal beliefs. Of course, that's much easier said than done.


The question would be, with these guys, do you wanna date something different? Like is it what you like or is it insanity: ie doing the same thing over & over expecting different results?

That's my Q of the day

Oh & homophobia... this day & age. Like that's so not necessary. You can state your beliefs without going "the extra mile" Like if he just said something like he doesn't agree with the lifestyle, but understands people have the right to choose, it would have been so much better...

Judy said...

Mailroom Boy?!?!?!? I never would have guessed....but I guess that would explain why he spends so much time standing at your desk!

Chaotically Calm said...

@Reforming Geek, this is not surprising I am too disgusted when two unattractive women kiss.

@La'Tonya, I am out of touch with the whole children thing since I don't have any. It makes sense that any conversation that may or may not lead to "the talk" would be difficult.

@Mr Nichols, hmm I must think a bit about this whole soul notion. If none of these "relationships" has worked out thus far how is it possible that the soul knows what compliments me...this is my hang up with this theory. Of course I am having a hellacious day so this could be affecting my response.

@Diva, I like certain things about these boys but the things I don't like outweigh the good. I'm starting to think I need to go outside of what I like and just go off the judgment of others.

Oh and the homophobia so not cute right? How janky is he for the unnatural comment though?

@Judy, and here I thought most days it's obvious...mum is the word.


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